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Reconcilable Differences: Rebuild Your Relationship by Rediscovering the Partner You Love--without Losing Yourself 2nd edition [Kietas viršelis]

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  • Formatas: Hardback, 348 pages, aukštis x plotis: 229x152 mm, weight: 586 g
  • Išleidimo metai: 10-Mar-2014
  • Leidėjas: Guilford Press
  • ISBN-10: 1462512313
  • ISBN-13: 9781462512317
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  • Formatas: Hardback, 348 pages, aukštis x plotis: 229x152 mm, weight: 586 g
  • Išleidimo metai: 10-Mar-2014
  • Leidėjas: Guilford Press
  • ISBN-10: 1462512313
  • ISBN-13: 9781462512317
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""If only he could see things from my point of view." "Why does she have to act that way?" No matter how much two people love each other, their differences will eventually cause conflict. This popular, science-based guide offers powerful solutions for couples frustrated by continual attempts to make each other change. True acceptance of one another may seem difficult to accomplish, but the clear-cut steps in this book can make it a reality. Aided by thought-provoking exercises and vivid stories, readers learn why they keep having the same fights again and again; how to keep small incompatibilities from causing big problems; what communication strategies really work to resolve conflicts; and how to problem-solve and make positive changes--together. Updated throughout with new research, practical tools, and examples, the second edition features a new chapter on mindfulness"--

Every couple has disagreements, but what happens when recurring conflicts start to pull your relationship apart? Do you lie awake hoping that your spouse will eventually see things your way, or rehashing the evidence that you're right? Demand some immediate changes--or else? This popular, science-based guide offers powerful solutions for couples frustrated by continual attempts to make each other change. True acceptance may seem difficult to accomplish, but the clear-cut steps and thought-provoking exercises in this book can make it a reality. You'll learn why you keep having the same fights again and again; how to keep small incompatibilities from causing big problems; what communication strategies really work to resolve conflicts; and how to problem-solve and make positive changes--together. Updated throughout with new research, practical tools, and examples, the second edition features a new chapter on mindfulness.

Mental health professionals: learn about using this self-help guide as an adjunct to therapy at the authors' website (http://ibct.psych.ucla.edu).

Recenzijos

This deceptively simple book can change lives. You and your partner will learn numerous ways to accept each other and achieve a new level of happiness and comfort in your relationship. The genius of the book is that these techniques are not difficult, and they can help put an end to perpetual conflict.--Pepper Schwartz, PhD, coauthor of The Normal Bar: The Surprising Secrets of Happy Couples and What They Reveal about Creating a New Normal in Your Relationship

No matter how many books you have read to improve your relationship, read this one, and follow the research-based principles it presents! The authors are internationally known scientists who have produced a book that all couples need to read. It's not the differences between you and your partner that matter, but how you handle them, and this book shows exactly how and why.--Howard J. Markman, PhD, coauthor of Fighting for Your Marriage

There are lots of books for couples that make interesting reading, and some that provide specific, doable suggestions for improving your relationship, but just a handful--including this one--based on principles that have been scientifically shown to work. Any couple that wants to better understand and overcome problems in their relationship will find this book a great place to start.--W. Kim Halford, PhD, School of Psychology, University of Queensland, Australia





-_x000D_One virtue of the book is its utter realism....Offers a slew of tools that couples can use to reconcile their differences without the help of a therapist. (on the first edition)--The New York Times, 4/18/2013Packed with data, wisdom, and common sense. (on the first edition)--Milwaukee Journal Sentinel, 4/18/2013_x000D_Gives several guides to building acceptance.(on the first edition)--USA Today, 4/18/2013An excellent book with much to offer about a well researched and well thought out application for couple therapy. (on the first edition)--Journal of Couple and Relationship Therapy, 4/18/2013

Acknowledgments ix
Preface xiii
Part I The Conflicting Sides of Conflict
1 Three Sides to Every Story
3(22)
2 "You're Wrong!": Relationship Problems as Faults
25(18)
Part II A DEEP Understanding of Conflict: The Third Side of the story
3 "How Can You Be That Way?": Relationship Problems as Differences
43(21)
4 "You Know How to Hurt Me": Relationship Problems as Emotional Sensitivities
64(23)
5 "Can't You See I'm Stressed Out?": Relationship Problems as External Circumstances
87(14)
6 A Cure Worse Than the Disease: Relationship Problems as Patterns of Communication
101(24)
Part III From Argument to Acceptance
7 The Delicate Balance: Acceptance and Change
125(18)
8 A Story of Our Own: Acceptance through Understanding
143(16)
9 Walking in Your Partner's Shoes: Acceptance through Compassion
159(22)
10 Getting Some Perspective on the Conflict: Acceptance through Tolerant Distance
181(20)
Part IV Deliberate Change through Acceptance
11 The Dilemmas of Deliberate Change
201(20)
12 Deliberate Change through Mindfulness: Custom-Fitting Change to Suit Your Relationship
221(18)
13 Deliberate Change through Communication: Taking Good Advice about Talking and Listening with a Mindful Grain of Salt
239(23)
14 The Silver Bullet of Deliberate Change: Taking Charge of Change Even When Things Go Bad
262(25)
Part V When Acceptance Is Not Enough
15 "Don't Do That to Me!": Violence, Verbal Abuse, and Infidelity
287(22)
16 Calling In the Professionals: Couple and Individual Therapy
309(20)
Resources 329(4)
Bibliography 333(4)
Index 337(11)
About the Authors 348
Andrew Christensen, PhD, is Professor of Psychology at the University of California, Los Angeles. Dr. Christensen has spent more than 30 years studying intimate relationships and working with couples in therapy. He has conducted extensive research on the impact of couple therapy, including the approach on which this book is based, which he developed with the late Neil S. Jacobson. Dr. Christensen and his wife, who live in Los Angeles, have two grown children.

Brian D. Doss, PhD, is Associate Professor of Psychology at the University of Miami, where he teaches and conducts research on couple therapy and romantic relationships. Dr. Doss lives in Miami with his wife and two children.

Neil S. Jacobson, PhD, was Professor of Psychology at the University of Washington until his death in 1999. The author or editor of numerous publications, Dr. Jacobson was one of the world's most widely cited family therapists.