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Acknowledgments |
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Introduction |
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I've Tried Before, But I Fall Back |
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4 | (1) |
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9 | (1) |
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9 | (1) |
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10 | (1) |
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Learning to Control Compulsions |
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11 | (1) |
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Addictions and Drug Dependencies |
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12 | (1) |
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A Balanced Plan for Undermining and Removing Addictions |
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13 | (6) |
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1 How We Can Change the Compulsive Mind: Habits and Meditation |
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19 | (16) |
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Finding Inspiration to Change |
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20 | (3) |
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23 | (1) |
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Motivation, Repetition, and Reward |
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24 | (1) |
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Mindfulness, Introspection, and Equanimity |
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25 | (3) |
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Some Practical Guidelines for Meditation |
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28 | (7) |
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2 What Can Be Done Right Now? |
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35 | (8) |
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Emergency Actions: Fleeing or Freezing |
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36 | (1) |
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Breathing and Relaxing Exercises |
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37 | (3) |
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40 | (1) |
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41 | (2) |
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3 Freedom from Acting Compulsively: Working with the Mind |
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43 | (18) |
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44 | (1) |
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45 | (2) |
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Developing Awareness and Equanimity through Meditation |
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47 | (11) |
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Myths and Realities about Happiness and Pleasure |
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58 | (3) |
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4 Finding Triggers and Choosing to Change |
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61 | (12) |
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How Does Something Come to Be a Trigger? Emotions and Habits |
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62 | (6) |
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68 | (3) |
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71 | (2) |
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5 Exaggeration, Denial, and Pain |
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Loaded Emotions and Exaggerations |
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74 | (3) |
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77 | (5) |
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Confidence Comes from Having a Little Wisdom: Separating Good Feedback from Bad |
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82 | (3) |
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6 Making Choices and Managing Pain |
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85 | (20) |
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Freedom from Pain and the Fear of Pain |
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86 | (3) |
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Accept Pain or Get Relief? |
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89 | (6) |
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95 | (4) |
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Making Choices and Building Self-Confidence |
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7 Cleaning Out Rubbish: Forgiveness |
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105 | (20) |
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Forgiving and Being Forgiven: The Story of Carri |
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106 | (5) |
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111 | (4) |
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115 | (7) |
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Our Addiction is Part of the Solution |
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122 | (3) |
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8 What is the Point in Saying "Enough!"? |
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125 | (28) |
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Freedom from the Isolation of an Addiction: Tools for Reconnecting |
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126 | (3) |
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Values and Happiness: The Sixteen Guidelines for a Happy Life |
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129 | (1) |
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Tools for How We Think: Humility, Patience, Contentment, Delight |
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130 | (2) |
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Tools for How We Act: Kindness, Honesty, Generosity, Right Speech |
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132 | (4) |
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Tools for How We Relate to Others: Respect, Forgiveness, Gratitude, Loyalty |
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136 | (7) |
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Tools for Finding Meaning: Principles, Aspiration, Service, Courage |
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143 | (5) |
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148 | (5) |
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9 Looking Ahead: Wisdom, Compassion, and Happiness |
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How to Develop Wisdom-Love: Introducing Bodhichitta |
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154 | (8) |
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162 | (1) |
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163 | (2) |
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165 | (1) |
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166 | (1) |
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Appendix 1 Explanation for Professionals |
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167 | (4) |
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Appendix 2 The Twelve Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous |
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171 | (1) |
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Appendix 3 The Buddhist Eightfold Noble Path as Described in Workshops on Addiction |
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172 | (2) |
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Appendix 4 Some Useful Websites |
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Notes |
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175 | (2) |
Bibliography |
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Index |
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