Can you love more than one person? A lot of conversations about nonmonogamy start this way. When we discuss opening relationships, contemplate whether we want to be exclusive with our partners, or introduce multiple partners to friends and family, we are asking the people in our lives, and ourselves, to contend with this question. The answer is obvious, and misleading. The love one feels in their heart and the love one expresses through daily acts of care and affection are both love in the true sense, but they have different requirements, present different options and produce different outcomes. More Than Two can t promise outcomes, but it is a guide to the paths from anchor or nesting partnerships to relationship anarchy possible within nonmonogamy. This long-awaited second edition bridges emerging theories on attachment and relationship diversity with authors Eve Rickert and Andrea Zanin s insight and experience. The arcs of nonmonogamous partnerships bend towards complexity, introspection and compromise or at least they can, if we work at it.
Recenzijos
With thorough research and a clear narrative style, Rickert and Zanin dole out facts and advice that readers can turn to again and again at any point throughout their polyamory journey. A smart, compassionate resource for anyone whos ever wondered about polyamory. * Kirkus Reviews *
Daugiau informacijos
Short-listed for Foreword INDIES Book of the Year Awards (Family & Relationships) 2024 (United States).
Foreword xi
Eves Preface and Acknowledgements xiii
Andreas Preface and Acknowledgements xxi
Introduction 1
Part 1 Laying Your Foundation 13
1 Choosing Nonmonogamy 15
2 Finding Your Compass (or, Dont Be Mean) 31
3 Abuse 58
Part 2 A Nonmonogamy Toolkit 87
4 Tending Your Self 89
5 Nurturing Your Relationships 111
6 Communication Pitfalls 122
7 Communication Strategies 137
8 Befriending the Green- Eyed Monster 155
Part 3 N onmonogamous Frameworks165
9 Boundaries 167
10 Rules and Agreements 184
11 Hierarchy and Primary/Secondary Polyamory 201
12 Veto Arrangements 226
13 Empowered Relationships 240
14 Practical Nonmonogamy Agreements 253
Part 4 T he Nonmonogamous Reality 271
15 How Nonmonogamous Relationships Are Different 273
16 Opening from a Couple 294
17 Mono/Poly Relationships 309
18 Finding Partners 321
19 Life in the Polycule 332
20 Sex, Pleasure, Risk and Health 353
21 Relationship Transitions 382
The Future of Nonmonogamy 397
Glossary 400
Notes 407
Resources 419
Index 429
Eve Rickert is a Gen X, queer, solo polyamorous, relationship anarchist, neurodivergent cis woman living on unceded W_SĮ NEC and Lekwungen territory on the west coast of the place currently known as Canada. She is the curator of the More Than Two Essentials series and the nonmonogamy resource site morethantwo.ca, the founder and publisher of Thornapple Press, and the founder and mastermind of the science communications firm Talk Science to Me.
Andrea Zanin, MA, is a queer writer who focuses on nonmonogamy and BDSM/Leather. Andrea has written for the Globe and Mail, The Tyee, Bitch, Ms., Xtra, IN Magazine, Outlooks Magazine and the Montreal Mirror. Their scholarly work, fiction and essays appear in a variety of collections.
