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Sexless in the City: A Sometimes Sassy, Sometimes Painful, Always Honest Look at Dating, Desire, and Sex [Minkštas viršelis]

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  • Formatas: Paperback / softback, 224 pages, aukštis x plotis x storis: 212x138x16 mm, weight: 190 g, 1 Paperback / softback
  • Išleidimo metai: 27-May-2021
  • Leidėjas: Zondervan
  • ISBN-10: 0310361036
  • ISBN-13: 9780310361039
  • Formatas: Paperback / softback, 224 pages, aukštis x plotis x storis: 212x138x16 mm, weight: 190 g, 1 Paperback / softback
  • Išleidimo metai: 27-May-2021
  • Leidėjas: Zondervan
  • ISBN-10: 0310361036
  • ISBN-13: 9780310361039
"Navigating singleness as a woman of faith can be a struggle fest, but it doesn't have to be. In Sexless in the City, podcaster, founder of The Refined Woman, and Texan turned New Yorker Kat Harris shares her messy, honest, and unlikely journey to discovering God's heart for singleness, sexuality, desire, and our purpose within it all"--

Navigating singleness as a woman of faith can be a struggle fest, but it doesn't have to be. In Sexless in the City, podcaster, founder of The Refined Woman, and Texan turned New Yorker Kat Harris shares her messy, honest, and unlikely journey to discovering God's heart for singleness, sexuality, desire, and our purpose within it all.

Discover a renewed biblical vision for sex, singleness, and relationships, and transform into an empowered woman of faith equipped to navigate today's dating culture with vision, clarity, and freedom. 

Let's face it: being single in today's culture as a woman of faith can be a STRUGGLE FEST. But it doesn't have to be. With real talk and straight wisdom, speaker, podcaster, and founder of The Refined Woman Kat Harris says it's time for a new conversation about singleness, sex, and desire. 

Growing up at the height of the purity movement, Kat knew this much: good Christians don't have sex until marriage. But approaching 30 and thrust into the New York City dating scene, she found a set of rules was not a compelling enough reason to keep her clothes on. Caught between purity culture's rules and popular culture's do what feels good, Kat began a multi-year journey searching for answers to the biggest questions about sexuality and faith:

  • What does the Bible really say about sex?
  • Why does almost everyone deal with some sort of sexual shame?
  • But really--what's a single girl to do with her sexual desire  
  • What if we never get married . . . then what  

It turns out Kat was asking questions that countless women were dying to ask but didn't know they had the permission to do so. Hungry for clarity, she researched, wrestled, and discovered a God who wasn't afraid or ashamed of sex and desire as she thought He might be. In actuality, God created sex and desire within humanity and called it very good. Now she believes God desires to restore a generation disillusioned with purity culture and Christian dating, discouraged about their singleness, ashamed of their sexual desire, and uncertain how to practically walk this season out well. 

Join Kat on her messy, sometimes painful, and always honest journey to discovering God's heart for sexuality, desire, singleness, and our purpose within it all.

Introduction xiii
PHASE 1 THE DECONSTRUCTION
1 My Breaking Point
3(11)
2 Modest Is Hottest
14(11)
Reframing Sexual Responsibility
3 Guys Don't Like Girls like Me
25(8)
Is My Femininity a Liability?
4 The Time I Became a Feminist
33(12)
God Loves Strong Women
5 Submit to My Husband What Does That Even Mean?
45(14)
Submission, Personal Agency, and Gender Roles
PHASE 2 THE RECONSTRUCTION
6 Stay Out Till You Make Out
59(8)
The Myth That You Are Your Desire
7 A Real-Life Prude Unicorn
67(8)
The Myth That You Need to Shut Down Your Desire
8 Stepping into the Gray
75(6)
Who Am If
9 Two Sides of the Same Coin
81(6)
Your Sexuality Isn't Bad; It's God Designed
10 Turned On
87(12)
Embracing Your Sexual Desire
101
PHASE 3 THE PRACTICAL
11 Sexual Healing
99(9)
Sensuality and the Practice of Presence
12 My Dirty Little Secret
108(16)
Is Masturbation a Sin?
13 Let's Talk about Sex
124(13)
What the Bible Really Has to Say about Sex
14 Stop Shoulding All over Yourself
137(7)
Owning Your Sexual Why
15 Blurred Lines
144(10)
Identifying Your Physical Boundaries in Dating
16 Work on Your Ish
154(12)
If You Don't Heal Your Past, It Will Haunt You
17 The One That Got Away
166(9)
The Price We Pay for Low Self-Worth
18 Dating Is a Curb, Not a Cliff
175(11)
Taking the Awkward Out of Dating
19 Now What?
186(9)
Acknowledgments 195(4)
Notes 199
Kat Harris currently lives in Brooklyn, New York. From Bible major to editorial photographer to educator to host of The Refined Collective Podcast, and now author, shes never shied away from doing things her way. Through her online platform, The Refined Woman, her vision is to be a voice of truth and hope while equipping women to walk in wholeness, worthiness, and freedom. She fiercely loves her big Texas family, and is indebted to her faithful community scattered all over the world. She believes in the power of story, and that every opportunity is an opportunity for growth if we choose it to be.