Too often churches confuse healing with conformity, pastoral care with the prescription of ideals, and located the problem with the survivor, not the community. Catherine Beaumont's stunning intervention shows how the problem is collectively owned in ways which stem from our rivalry with God and each other, and why support must begin in non-rivalrous love. Experientially, theoretically, and lovingly driven, this book should shape how we think about church. -- Dr Marcus Pound, Associate Professor of Catholic Theology, Durham University What glorious sanity! Catherine Beaumont shows how the relationship between survivors of abuse and their Churches goes to the heart of the Gospel. Wonderfully clearly written, full of vivid local examples and the wisdom of lived experience. Any churchgoer could benefit personally from this book, as I did, yet no expert need be ashamed to learn from its pages. -- James Alison, Catholic Priest and Theologian Dr Beaumont delivers a powerful call for change. While churches continue to protect their reputation for righteousness-framing survivors as 'problematic'-the damage of abuse is compounded. Her uplifting vision for Gospel communities that vindicate rather than scapegoat is modelled on God "who never comes against us". Love in action. -- Rev Dr Susan Shooter, author of How Survivors of Abuse Relate to God: the Authentic Spirituality of the Annihilated Soul.